Choosing to respond in manners that open communication

“But God who is rich in mercy, because of his great love for us, even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ (by Grace you have been saved), and raised us up together, and made us sit together in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, that in the ages to come He might show the exceeding riches of His grace in His kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.
For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the GIFT of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”     Ephesians 2:4-10



To follow a person, implies someone is leading the way, showing the path, instructing and providing the means in how I am to go after, in the pursuit of gaining the concepts that are being modeled and taught.

Jesus Christ is the One who is my leader in my spiritual faith walk and He is the One who models this new way of being I am to display in my everyday lifestyle, if I call myself a Christian.

If I am following the way Christ modeled, who is love, I am not to worry about people’s opinions of me when my walk is one of humble obedience to His calling, to become God’s Heart in this world.

There will be many who fail to understand this life in Christ.

It is my role to walk as a woman carrying the integrity of this divine nature of His regenerative and redemptive love within my soul. God is always at work within me, exchanging my flesh tendencies for God’s authentic love towards myself and others.

God’s grace is here for me to take hold of and lean into each moment I am gifted this precious life.

As I am a human, a flesh creation of God and I relate to other humans, who are also God’s creations, it is in this realm where I have the most difficulties, conflicts and frictions.

Many times as I encounter others, I am finding myself having to intentionally step back from my flesh tendencies to react in an ungodly manner and step into the grace God grants.

God’s grace gives me ability in being responsive towards others in a genuine, sincere, gentle, loving inner attitude, manifested in my outward behaviors.

Following the way Jesus modeled is a tough calling. His high calling for me to become His breath of love upon this earth in encountering and interacting with other persons can be difficult, disheartening, frustrating, and painful.

Relationships can also be rewarding, encouraging, joyful and satisfying.

Interfacing with others and learning to deal with varying temperaments, personalities and characters, often requires of me on an internal level, to purposefully restrain my own tendencies from reacting from a human stance, that could be harmful.

In order to come to an experiential understanding of God’s grace, it is in those moments I am feeling my flesh rise up within me, in wanting to say something in the heat of the moment, but I refrain from doing so, and I learn to pause, taking a reflective step back, in allowing this abundant provision of God’s Spirit of grace to enter into my flesh weakness in that instance.

It is in these moments known in relationships, I discover how to abide in God’s sustaining life, whose Spirit is intertwined in the fabric of my humanity, in conducting my interactions in a Christ life manner.

God’s grace is accessible, abundant, unlimited and available each moment of my daily faith walk and it becomes my role to step into this provision.

Exemplifying Christ like manners takes practice, patience, and a daily willingness on my part to stop myself when I am sensing a reaction, in my outward behavior or attitude, not conducive in opening communicating.

It is my role to consider my ways of being when I am relating to other persons.

If my end goal is in desiring to build pathways of peaceful relating, in opening opportunities, then I must become aware of my need to manage my inner posture in executing my conduct in manners that are both helpful and fruitful.

When I learn this art of letting go of my own ways of reacting, and learn to put the brakes on in stopping myself, realizing what I am about to say will harm and not build alliances, I am learning to abide in this grace God’s provision offers, giving me His ability in that instance, to respond appropriately.

God’s grace is a supernatural power of the Spirit’s life in me.

When I learn to give up my own self methods, preferred designs and desired plans, in all my relationships, I am allowing God’s holiness of His divine Spirit life of love, to be present.  Godliness in all manners, makes the difference in my spiritual growth and maturity as I relate to other persons.

When I turn my focus and attentions towards God, sinking into all He has given me, which is everything I need to live this spiritual calling, in my everyday faith walk, I come into a deeper understanding of how His grace becomes my strength in my everyday encounters with other persons.

Regardless of where I find myself today and knowing I will have many struggles in this world, it is only when I purposefully and intentionally give up my human flesh tendencies in reacting inappropriately, learning to respond in loving ways, I will be clothing my inner realm in the Christ ways.

It is when I stretch out my arms in a total surrender in how I relate with others, where God’s grace enters into those areas, and His ability lifts me up in a strength, that becomes the spiritual godly manna I learn to feed myself with intimately, where I am walking this narrow road called faith.

This daily art in surrendering of my own wrong attitudes when interacting with other people, becomes a spiritual practice and process in my life where I am ushered into this heavenly realm of grace.

As I continually stretch into the new wine skins as God’s creation, The Spirit births godly fruits in my weaknesses and God is who becomes manifested through my .interactions.

How I relate to others is a matter of choice. My choices determine the course of patterns I use in interacting with other persons. When I am consistently choosing the Christ way of being in how I treat those I cross paths with in this world, then I am allowing the Spirit to be who reigns and rules my inner realm.



  • Where am I having the most difficulty when relating with others?
  • What steps can I take in learning to reign in ungodly reactions and learn to enter into the Spirit of grace in responding more appropriately?
  • What one thing can I do today that will help me?
  • Who am I choosing as an examples to model my life after?


Here are some suggested helpful scriptures for you to consider and be mindful of during your day.

  • John 14:15-17 If you love me, keep my commandments. I will ask the Father to give you another Helper, to be with you always. He is the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor recognizes him. But you recognize him, because he lives with you and will be in you.”


  • John 14:26 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and remind you of everything that I have told you.”


  • Romans 8:26 “In the same way the Spirit also joins to help in our weakness, because we do not know what to pray for as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with unspoken groanings.”


This is part 2 of my series in learning to stop reacting and begin to respond lovingly.  If you missed part 1, you can read it by clicking here  We can choose to say No

Look for part 3 in this series to be posted Monday, August 13th.


Please let us know ways you have learned to respond more appropirately in the ‘Penny for your thought’ section at the end of this post.



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