Accepting and Allowing our emotional states

If we are willing to accept that pain and suffering will always be a component of life, then we can have the courage in entering into an acceptance of whatever our present situation is, along with enduring often difficult emotions.


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We were created and gifted with complex emotions by the author of our lives, our Father God in order to fully express ourselves in our humanity and as the spiritual beings He is transforming us to become.

When we learn to accept all our emotions, the dark and the light, we will not succumb to wishing or praying our ‘feelings’ away.  We will come to the place of understanding the necessity of allowing each emotional state we find ourselves dealing with, to freely flow out from us and recognizing our need to do so in healthy channels.


There are some Christians who think that rebuking certain feeling states is some sort of Godly ritual that needs to happen.  To pretend certain responses or emotions do not exist, or that they do not affect us, is to be blind to our situation and dismissive to our humanity. To deny our emotional responses to life experiences is to deny our very personhood and the beauty God has gifted us with in being expressive beings.

Many people live in this place of denial and desire to only speak of the ‘positive’ emotions in life and in doing so, they reject who God has made them to be as human beings on a spiritual journey in manifesting the Fullness of Christ, who learned obedience by enduring suffering, including emotional pain.

When we go around in our everyday life and stuff or bury certain emotions, we will become stunted as a person and this will come out indirectly, but directly in our nearest relationships, and often not in pleasant ways.

It is in learning to live within the entirety of our experiences which causes us to enter an emotional stability and a sense of wellbeing.  Our feelings validate who we are and help us work through often difficult life circumstances or situations we presently find ourselves dealing with.

We can live in the moment with insecurity and pain, accepting that is where we are right now, in this very moment, and no matter the depth of our emotional manifestations, we will have the strength to continue moving forward in our lives, in the realization uncomfortable and unpleasant feelings are part of our whole experiences as human beings.

Learning to accept where we are right now in our lives, is bravery lived in the present moment. Acceptance of what our current emotional journey is right now, is living with all of whose we are and all that we feel in the thankfulness we are God’s creations.

pexels-photo-950200.jpegAs we learn to allow ourselves space in sitting with often difficult emotions, let us also allow others this same space in honoring their journey in our shared humanity, for them to work through conflicted and painful emotions. When we dismiss another sister or brothers’ emotional responses to real life situations, we are rejecting them and who God has created them to be.

We cannot expect others to be at the same place we are emotionally, so let us remember to maintain a sensitivity to those we interact with in not throwing out some cliché, scripture, or blanket statement we think will ‘fix’ them.

We need to pray and allow the Holy Spirit to be active when we are walking this Faith Journey, remaining open in listening, being present with others, for our manner, along with the words we use, can make a huge impact in influencing another persons emotional state; either positive or negative.

The challenge is to not become ‘stuck’ in certain emotional states as there is a way to move through them. There is a process that exists for us to move forward in an emotional pruning of our inner selves, and we do not have to succumb in being carriers of harmful and destructive energy states.

The transformative nature of God’s Holy Spirit, when melded with a person’s emotional state, is the supernatural work that occurs in the spiritual realm for us to be changed in our inner character to have attributes and traits where we become fruit bearers of Christ life flowing through us towards others.   

We need to be patient with ourselves and with each other as God is working on all of us.  No one who has arrived in any state of perfection in this pilgrimage upon planet earth and there is not one of us who has attained to the place of being a completed work in Christ.

Allowing ourselves a bit of Grace while lending Mercy towards others will help us in doing the hard work in the learning how necessary it is that we accept how we feel, which very often means we must come to terms in accepting our present circumstance(s) in our lives.  Internalizing acceptance helps us to improve our own sense of wellness as we are letting go of the struggle to be somewhere else in our emotions and learning to be present, right where we are, embracing our current situation(s), along with our emotional responses to them.

In being able to express our emotions in a healthy manner, also reveals how resilient we are as human beings in the face of experiencing emotional difficulties, to continue in our life journey towards our pursuits and goals in developing a deeper spiritual practice.


Lorraine Taylor – Lay Minister to the Body of Christ


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